Blog #5

Children with absent parents make up a large percentage of our society.

         Throughout the years parents have been turning there back on their own children.  Leaving them for whoever wants the job as missing parent.  If it's without the financial burden all the better.  Leave the responsibility  for someone else and continue on with their life.  Why have we just come to a place where we except this as part of life and we deal with it however difficult it is.  It's long time overdue to hold some of these parents more accountable for their actions. 
        A father is allowed to abandon their children so long as they pay child support.  What about the feelings the child has about abandonment, and even the feelings of guilt they may carry around feeling like they are a burden for the mother who struggles alone to care for the child, or children.  There is so much more going on under the surface than anyone person can realize, unless they've been in this situation.  There are so many examples I could use, so many situations of abandonment.  That is where I believe the law should tighten the reins and hold parents responsible more for what they do to these children.  The psychological effects of abandonment  last a lifetime.  And after eighteen years of just paying child support the absent parent has completed their parental obligation.  Is the definition of  abandonment within the law is just a word to be defined not in black and white, but with multiple shades of gray.  And if so the laws do not consider the lifelong effects of abandonment on a child.  And society looks upon these children as lost, underachievers with a life of crime and drug addiction.  Society must acknowledge the root of the problem and discipline the absent parent for their lack of interest in the child.  Parenting is not a choice after you've created life it is an obligation that every adult must contend with.  So many children are dehumanized as only a bill you receive with much dislike.  Unless of course the parent is a threat to the child do to mental illness than obviously the safety of the child comes first. http://ezinearticles.com/?Absent-Parents-and-Left-Behind-Kids&id=212292